Community Guidelines

Be kind.

You don't have to be best friends with everyone. But basic decency is the floor. Treat people the way you'd want to be treated in a space where you felt safe.

Do not harass, threaten, or target people.

This includes following someone across rooms to bother them, sending unwanted messages after being asked to stop, making threats of any kind, or coordinating with others to target a person.

Do not attack people over who they are.

No hate speech, slurs, or attacks based on identity, disability, neurodivergence, gender, sexuality, religion, politics, ethnicity, background, or personal circumstances. People are allowed to exist here as they are.

This is not a dating app.

CommonGrove is a platonic friendship platform. Pursuing romantic or sexual connections with other users — especially after they've made it clear they're not interested — is not acceptable here.

Respect boundaries.

If someone says they don't want to talk, that's enough. You don't need a reason. Move on. Continued contact after someone has set a boundary is harassment.

Do not spam, scam, bot, or advertise.

No mass messages, no referral links, no automated accounts, no pyramid schemes, no "DM me for this amazing opportunity." CommonGrove is not a marketing channel.

Do not share private information.

Do not share someone's real name, location, contact details, or any other personal information they haven't made public themselves — including your own if you'd prefer to keep it private.

Do not pressure people to respond.

People here may be anxious, busy, exhausted, or just need time. Sending follow-up messages to push someone to reply faster isn't okay. A lack of response is also an answer.

Use reports responsibly.

Reports are for genuine concerns — not for settling arguments or getting back at someone. Submitting false or bad-faith reports wastes moderation time and may itself lead to action.

If someone is in crisis, point them toward real help.

CommonGrove is a social space for conversation and connection — it is not a crisis service, therapy platform, or emergency support system. If someone seems to be in genuine danger, encourage them to contact emergency services or a crisis line in their area. You can also report the situation to us.